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Outside the realm of physical movement, this is Tari’s favorite area of expertise.  Quality of Life is the undercurrent of what he is about.  You may have noticed throughout the Tari Television site that practices are spoken of as being sustainable- practices that we can practice for a lifetime.  Here Tari explores these qualities with the hope that you will gain inspiration from them.

MINIMALISM

Minimalism or our perceived sense of it, is one of the more powerful gifts we can offer ourselves. But it’s important to clarify what kind we’re talking about here. We are not speaking of possessing one fork, one pair jeans, a t-shirt, and calling it a day.  Nor am I suggesting you live out of a box or car.  My brand of minimalism goes hand-in-hand with decluttering your life, living space and workspace to such a degree, that there’s nothing superfluous and unnecessary left to clutter your brain or sense of space. It’s a philosophy of emptying the space around you rather than filling it.

In my garage for instance, there’s a car, a Ducati, a place to store all of my motorcycle gear, a trashcan, and a couple storage bins for things I regularly use. That’s it!  My bedroom consists of a custom bed, night tables, a lamp, two gorgeous chairs, a big bouncy ball, an Asian screen, a wood-burning fireplace, and a set of high fidelity speakers.  Inside my closet you’ll find only what’s supposed to be there: clothes that I think look great on me, bed linens and nothing more. Open any cabinet or drawer, look on any shelf and they are practically empty. No just in case nonsense, no “I may need this five years from now,” no excess.  I’ve discovered over years that if it sits in a drawer or is invisible to the eyes I am probably are not using it.  As such it gets gifted or thrown away.

It’s a fun practice to be both vibrantly abundant and extremely minimal. My closet is chalk full of clothes. My pantry is full of delicious super foods, and there are fun acrobatic toys all through the house.  I love having the latest technology- I’ve got an iMac, iPad Mini, an iPod and an iPhone…  Everything in my possession is something I use on a regular basis or love and appreciate.  So a question I’ll always ask to determine whether I’ll keep something or not is: when I look at it, use it or wear it do I feel immense pleasure and appreciation for this object?  Now, it’s about only having what I “need to survive,” or having the bare minimum to live. I am not suggesting we live an impoverished lifestyle.  Rather, it is having everything you want in any quantity that you want, as long as it’s not cluttering your space, and you’re regularly using, loving, or appreciating it.

My personal taste for lifestyle combines minimalism with luxury that combination affords an extraordinary sense of well-being.

LUXURY

I have never believed that to live luxuriously, you have to buy top name brand items an stay in five star hotels- but that doesn’t mean it isn’t fun to do so.  There are many ways to feel luxurious and elegant without breaking the bank.  I have built up my luxury collection over time, and every time I bring something luxurious in, I usually send something outdated out. A sense of luxury can come from spaciousness, deep breathing, and even the way you carry yourself.  A sense of luxury can come from the way you organize a room, and the color scheme you choose. It can be treating yourself to three pairs of pants when you find a style that you love and adore, but getting rid of three older ones that don’t flatter you.  I feel the most luxurious inside a large, clean living space with lots of light and high ceilings that has tasteful decor placed in a way that feels welcoming and relaxing.

So I feel that luxury is something that we give ourselves. It cannot be measured by anyone else’s standard nor should it. If you enjoy feeling luxurious and abundant, it’s a nice gift to yourself to live this way, without the guilt trip of whether it is wrong or right or if you deserve to indulge or not.

To enjoy a luxurious lifestyle you cannot put your focus exclusively on what you ‘need’ to ‘survive’ and feel luxurious at the same time. It has to be about what you ‘want.’  When you give yourself permission to have everything you want, life unfolds differently for you.

COMFORT

We live in a world where laziness and doing less reigns supreme. Yet many of us walk around with an uncanny sense that if we want to be valued, or we want to be worthy, that we should regularly be in uncomfortable or sacrificial situations.  I used to be told when I was younger for example that if I wanted to get anywhere in life with my business, that I would need to work 60 hour work weeks and not have time for myself.  That didn’t work for me.  My comfort philosophy is: For goals that I want to achieve or things that I am interested in learning, I believe in pushing myself outside of my comfort zone. I believe in taking steps every day that are challenging for me so that I can grow and expand.

However, when it comes to sitting down on my sofa or bed, I am never going to buy some massively uncomfortable piece of  contemporary furniture simply because it looks spectacular but feels like cement when I sit on it.   With lifestyle items like design around house, my car, bike, or what I wear, I do not sacrifice my physical comfort to look good or have my environment look good.

It is possible to have gorgeous furniture and possessions and look phenomenal in clothing that does not make you feel pain or discomfort when you wear or use them.

It’s an interesting way to live, because I have found that when you expect that you need to be uncomfortable to benefit from a situation, then you’ll attract situations that test your level of comfort. But since I have been living comfortably, I continue to find myself in regularly comfortable situations which I find pleasant.  It’s not a mandate or a total renunciation of physical discomfort, it’s simply a preference when it comes to designing my living environment that I intend for myself and my guests to be comfortable and it makes a world of difference.

HIGH TECH

I’m a fan of cutting edge high-technology that makes life easier. When Siri was first brought to the iPhone, it truly changed my life and changed the way I interact with the world.  Now, I dictate nearly all of my emails and text messages, and that has save my fingers and wrists from a great deal of excess use. (Thus keeping me in comfort)  I am so unattracted to wires that I have really push the envelope for having a truly wireless house when it comes to music. Now with only a couple taps on my phone or iPad, I can send music to any room of the house without wires. I cannot remember the last time I’ve taken a key in or out of my pocket to lock or unlock my vehicle. The brilliance of the sensor inside of the handle when I enter my car and a pushbutton start makes a world of difference.

I love these things. Are they necessary? No. Few things are. But they increase quality of my drastically. Tech can play a tremendous role in streamlining your life.

ABUNDANCE AND SPACE

It’s beyond by comprehension but these days everyone wants to try to cram oneself into the tiniest and smallest living spaces possible. Why?  Why are people so proud to say they can trap themselves in a shoebox?   It’s not even about what people can afford anymore, with the exception of New York and San Francisco, it’s a choice for so many people.  Animals have the whole world to move about freely in.  Don’t you want to have a little bit of space to breathe in, and frankly think without feeling trapped by four walls?  Personally I do not want my bathroom within earshot of my bedroom and I don’t want my bedroom anywhere near my kitchen.  Lately, I have seen 800, 600 and to my shock and amazement, 400 square foot residences, still renting in the thousands mind you, along with people eager to move in. I won’t do it. I need room to think an create.

I find space creates a feeling of abundance which means a lack of scarcity. Lots of space, without a lot of possessions yields a very unique living experience. It actually gives you a playground, it gives you space to be creative. With an abundance of empty space, I don’t need to rent a studio space to do activities like acrobatics and dance. I don’t need to find a gym to workout in and I don’t need to worry about where people will sit if I have a few friends over and if my sheets will smell like Italian food. It is my strong belief that a feeling of spaciousness helps eliminate lack out of your life and it can be done on a budget.

CLUTTER FREE

Lack of clutter and spaciousness go hand in hand. When I was 20, and living in a spacious apartment in Santa Monica I read a book called, “Clearing your clutter and colon with Feng Shui.” I was living with two Italian roommates and frankly between the three of us we hardly had any possessions at all. Or so I thought. Within days of reading the book I had accumulated 4 large black garbage bags of clothes and STUFF that I just didn’t need or use anymore and I gave it all away to my friends. My room, which contained all of my possessions at the time, felt amazing to be in. The whole energy changed. And the whole energy in my life changed as well.  It was the most liberating experience I ever had, and, within two weeks an opportunity came and I left everything to move to Italy for a year which paved the way to the life I lead now. Since then I have never looked back on letting go of possessions.  Tchotchkes, trinkets, kitsch, thingamabobs, knickknacks, whosie-whatsits, doodad, doohickey… look at the horrible names we use to describe the garbage we don’t need. It should just be called crap, and then we wouldn’t have  a problem getting rid of it.

I cannot speak enough about letting go of stuff you don’t need. Read a book on it, go online, or just start decluttering your environment. For most of us, 80% of what we own is entirely useless and untouched.  By law of the 80 / 20 principle it has to be. You simply cannot use, look at and admire every single thing you own in your living space. I have decluttered my space to the point of absurdity and I am forever amazed at how I continue to find things that I own but do not use or need.

By letting go of that which we don’t need, we free ourselves up to endless possibilities of new people, experiences and yes even things coming our way for us to enjoy. There is nothing that any of us want for any reason other than that in the having of it we believe it will make us feel good or feel happier. After a good clearing, choose your possessions wisely and bring consciousness to every single item you bring into your home: bags, receipts, magazines, mail, shopping additions… You’ll immediately notice how good it feels!  Break free of consumerism that says we rare not enough or worthy unless we have a certain item and step into the true being you are that is timeless.

BODY COMFORTABLE

This is a principle that I have used most of my life but has really come to light when training in Thai Massage. The idea is that while you are doing something like helping another, exercising, driving, massaging… to not put yourself in a position that compromises your own physical comfort in your body. The idea probably strikes most as selfish. When we give to someone, shouldn’t we sacrifice our own comfort, for the comfort of others?  Shouldn’t we suffer, so that someone else can feel good? And in non life threatening situations, the answer is a resounding no!  We are at our highest capacity to give when we are the most comfortable.  I don’t know about you but when I see people who are really sick, weak, stressed or run down – they have very little to give and I certainly don’t want to imposition someone in that state to help me with anything. When I come across vital, healthy people who put their well being first, I am amazed at how inspired I am by our endless capacity to give and help.

It’s a fine line to play between not inconveniencing oneself to help another which unattractive on all levels and not putting yourself in physically uncomfortable situations while helping or giving to someone else. This is very different than stepping outside your comfort zone or choosing to put yourself in an uncomfortable situation for personal growth. To keep it simple, I have discovered that when I feel good, I want others to feel good with me and am inspired to help.  When I’m shining, and my body feels at its best, I want to inspire and share it with others. Try it out for yourself next time you can. You’ll feel a difference.

FASHION FORWARD

How we dress has a measurable influence on our life and can influence how we feel. I understand fashion is not for everyone.  But in my own life, even though I am confident on the inside, I have always appreciated the extra little pop or burst of confidence that comes from feeling like I look great in the clothes I’m wearing. Believe me, my heart is in the right place for those of you who dream of a world where the way we look doesn’t matter, and what we wear is irrelevant.  At the same time, we are here on this planet and we do have to wear clothes. Why not make it fun or the best representation of how we feel about ourselves as opposed to… functional? Sweats are great for sure, but I also recently discovered a pair of pants that allows me to actually do acrobatics and work out in them but I can dress them up as well and they look as though I’m wearing a pair of Prada slacks!

It’s important to know which types of clothing respond best to your body type and skin tone and personality. I think it’s important to know which colors look great on you. Can you pull off stripes and checkers and plaids or are you more of an earth tones person?  I’ve discovered about myself that I will always choose a V-neck over a standard collar. I know that I look better in custom tailored clothing rather than loose and baggy. And I have also discovered that I cannot do brown or loud colors like orange or lime green (Nor would I want to!). If you’re a man, and you’re not sure where to get started, a great thing to do is solicit the help of a woman you find attractive or whose opinion you respect, or even asking more than one of the girls who’s working in the store your shopping in.

SOOTHING COLORS

Nothing brings a living environment together better than the right colors. Lately I’ve been into silver sage, sea foam greens, tropical ocean blues, sunsets, oceans, butter yellows and anything else that. Classy, timeless colors never go out of style and always feel good when you look at them.  You can’t help but be influences by the colors you look at. Go to a DMV and take a deep breath. Feel anything? Of course not. Now stand in front of an ocean, a clear sky, a garden and do the same… Color, like nature is alive!

CLASS & CHARM

In to everything that I touch, say or do, I try to bring an element of class, charm, grace and elegance.  This one is generally unspoken but I think it’s best described as a way of carrying yourself that makes you feel great.

WIT & BANTER

Witty banter is the rallying back-and-forth of intelligent, sometimes sensual, often warlike but playful words exchanged between two people. It involves wit, charm, and being a cunning linguist. It engages the brain, heightens the senses, and builds excitement and tension between two people. If a picture is worth a thousand words, the movie Dangerous Liaisons will leave you speechless. It is the best example of witty banter that I can think of.

I think it has to do with my love for words and languages. I speak English, Spanish, and Italian, and am studying French and Russian. I’ve always had a strong adoration of words. I can remember as early as the fifth grade when I would hear friends use the same words like good, bad, awesome, and gross to describe everything. I was mortified by the fact that all my peers only had a four word vocabulary to solicit their emotions. Languages are rich, and intricate, and full of ways for us to express ourself, and I am a big advocate of carefully selecting each of our words, as though you were plucking fine chocolate truffles off a dessert tray, selectively  contemplating each one before making a selection.

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